I’m off to visit my daughter, who’s studying abroad, but I’ve scheduled some posts to be published on my mostly normal schedule (M,W,F). I’m taking my laptop, but based on her crummy online connection, I’m not really sure whether I’ll be able to get to the internets. I hope to, because I love doing the whole Comments thing after I’ve put up a new post. But in the event that I’m MIA, you’ll know why. I’ll be back for business as usual Oct. 19, ranting and raving and getting all up in your grille.
1. Check out this video. This is from a storytelling site, and I think it’s awesome!
I love the way this woman connected with a stranger. I love the risks she took. I love the pleasure she shows as she relives the moment. Very sensual. Of course, I wanted them to live happily ever after. Oh well. Maybe they found each other later on Craigslist Missed Connections.
2. The Brainiac blog of the Boston Globe ran The Psychology of the Booty Call the other day. I’m not sure why a blog promoted as Illuminating Thoughts From the World of Ideas would find this study newsworthy. I imagine a bunch of middle aged types who walk around saying, “Hookup? What’s a hookup?” (I can’t tell you how many times I’ve fielded that one at dinner parties.)
I do understand why someone would find this story amusing, as they did at NCBI ROFL, the brainchild of two Molecular and Cell Biology graduate students at UC Berkeley. They find articles that make them laugh at the National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI) and post them. For the booty call uninitiated, here’s what the Journal of Sex Research revealed about booty calls:
Women reported receiving more booty calls than men.
Men did not report initiating more booty calls.
The telephone is the most popular form of communication for booty calling.
Physical attractiveness was the most important criterion for accepting a booty call.
Men cited sexual access as the primary reason for initiating booty calls.
Women cited friendship, compatibility and personality as reasons for accepting booty calls.
For booty calls that do not progress into long-term relationships, both genders attributed the lack of progression to the male’s not wanting a relationship.
In conclusion, the booty call may represent a compromise between the short-term, sexual nature of men’s ideal relationships and the long-term, commitment ideally favored by women.
Women! Do you know what this means? It means that when you accept a booty call, you are enabling douchebag behavior and playing a game you cannot win. JUST SAY NO!
3. Everyone has been abuzz with the news that Tufts University has established a rule against having sex in a dorm when the roommate is present. Apparently, it’s big news to some that college students are having sex in front of other people. Here are a few of the real stories that have been shared with me in the last year:
Boyfriend went for anal sex for the first time when there were two other guys asleep in the room one Sunday morning. He bet (correctly) that his gf would hesitate to object or make any noise.
Couple had sex on the lawn in the quad in front of passersby. She straddled him in a skirt – he was lying down with all his clothes still on (but fly unzipped, obvs). So, no body parts were visible, but the sound effects were uninhibited.
Student came back to her room on a Monday night, only to learn that her roommate wanted privacy AGAIN. She said no. Roommate and bf proceeded to bump with the lights on.
…and innumerable tales of students waking up to the sounds of roommates messing around.
We’re so busy gazing below our navels that we no longer require privacy, because we no longer require intimacy. There is literally so much hooking up happening on campus that less fortunate roommates are getting sexiled several nights a week. This has led to student newspapers helpfully publishing lists of places where you can do it on campus. I don’t know, maybe college kids need to go back to skulking around in stairwells and storerooms, the way we did back in the day.